Thursday, 17 March 2016

Stressed out?


Stress is caused by being 'here' but wanting to be 'there'.
-Eckhart Tolle 

Hello!

Life can just be really hard and overwhelming sometimes We all have days when we think we are about to lose control. School, work or a personal matter - we all stress over something every now and again. And maybe that's okay. After all, we are all just human. What matters is how we treat stress and how we fight or overcome it.
  Lately I've been feeling extremely stressed out almost to the point that I'm so tired I barely get things done anymore. So instead of wailing over my situation and dreading exams that I need to do, I decided to work towards a happier, better mindset. Today, I wanted to share how I try to de-stress and calm down.

  Have a special place for relaxing. Now this could be anything from a small space in your room, to  a whole room or a place outside. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. In this place there will be no work done, work is not even allowed in the space at all. Making a specific place your own "relaxing zone" is amazing for de-stressing. I haven't found a place of this myself (going against my own tips here...) but I do try to keep my school work on my table and not on my bed, for example.

  Want to know my top tip? Talk it out! This used to be so hard for me. My mother is a psychotherapist and it was really hard for me to go talk to her in the evening after she had come back from work. I felt like a burden. This wasn't just limited to talking with my mum. I still sometimes feel like this but I'm not my mother's patient nor am I a stranger to, for example, my best friend or my boyfriend. I have also talked to some professional "helpers". Sharing your thoughts and problems and allowing yourself to feel vulnerable makes you realise that you don't have to make it on your own every single time. There are other people going through work stress or personal stress, so you're definitely not the only person in this world going through a hard patch and you can be helped, if you so wish. In a few occasions talking has also pretty much solved my problem because I go through it and explain it to someone who doesn't know which makes me realise a) how small my problem is or b) how easy it is to fix.

  Something as simple as a quick workout can make you feel so much better. For me especially running just energizes me and gets my mind of the things that make me stressed. I love the feeling of going out, enjoying the nature and kind of letting go, I guess. Sometimes I listen to music, sometimes I listen to the sounds of nature (spring is coming, birds are singing!). It doesn't really matter how or when I workout, in the morning, during the afternoon, after I've finished studying etc. Since I'm also just a newbie runner I also feel a sense of accomplishment after a run.



  It's pretty self-explanatory that a clean space equals a clean mind, but what it also means that I have to clear out my working space in order to actually study. I do get stressed over clutter so cleaning it makes me feel better. So my next tip, in general, is to tackle small projects, such as clearing out your room or paying the bills. Anything that is doable in a few hours or less is good. You again get a feeling of accomplishment but also you do something that could potentially make you stressed - even if you don't acknowledge it.

  In a way this is sad but I honestly think it's one of the best tips, and that is to cry it out. Very often stress is caused by a lot of things that make you feel controversial and upset but you can't express it. So all these negative feelings are just building up and making your stress even worse. Every once in a while it's okay to just let yourself cry because more often you feel so much better after. I've always been a very emotional person but I only recently learned that it's as okay to show that you're upset as it's okay so show happiness. I can't always help my feelings but I can change my attitude towards it and I choose to let it out.

  Something that has always calmed me down is disconnecting. In today's modern world we are surrounded by constant information and pressure. It's so easy to lose the sense of yourself in all this. So when it feels like my whole world is collapsing, I take time for myself. I need time to understand where I'm standing, what I really want and how I want to accomplish it. In the end I'm living my life for myself and not for someone or something else.  It's up to me what I do.

  Although I find it important to work through these things, it's also important to realise when it is time for a mental breather. It's okay to need time and space. It's okay to figure out whatever it is that is making you feel uneasy. A break doesn't have to be something big. Really it's mostly about taking some time for yourself and enjoying life's little things whether it's reading your favourite book all over again (even though you've read it at least a dozen times) or going for a long hike and exploring your surrounding or just chilling at a coffee shop with your best mates. Do what makes you happy.

Enjoy life's little things :)    ©SilviaGoller

  Until next time! Take care!
-Silvia